This post may contain affiliate links. If you click my link I'll earn a commission without costing you a dime. Read my disclosure policy. For greater details
How do you take care of twins alone?
You’re probably going to get sick and tired of hearing the statement “YOU NEED TO GET HELP” But what happens when you don’t have a village to support you…
“How do I manage my twins alone?” If you’re asking yourself that question. Then you’re at the right place.
This is no easy task for sure… You might share some tears and find yourself frustrated but it’s definitely possible.
So if you’re asking yourself how do you manage twin babies alone? and how to make taking care of twins by yourself easier?
Then you’re at the right place.
Below are tips and tricks I’m going to teach you about how to take care of twins all by yourself and still be sane.
- You can do it
- Prepare the night before
- Proper gear
- Small goals
- Join a twin mom group
- Schedules and more schedules
- Outsource the extras
- Do something for yourself
You can handle newborn twins alone
Push all of the negativity aside and get into your brain that you can take care of those babies all by yourself.
Mindset is everything. Getting your head into the right space is going to help you push through.
Remember: You pushed two babies out of you OR you were cut open and two babies were taken out of your stomach.
You can do anything after surviving labor.
It won’t be easy…
You might find yourself getting a good old cry out…
And you might even want to pull all of your hair out.
That’s ok… Just take deep breaths and move forward.
I told my husband I never thought I would be able to take care of three kids all by myself.
I also told him I was so scared of anything happening to him because I didn’t know how I would handle three kids.
Now that I have actually taken care of my three kids all by myself.
I have learned how tough I can truly be. And how much more I can accomplish because of it.
is ok to have fears… Let them out. Talk about them and move forward.
But just make sure you’re also telling yourself that you can do it.
Face those fears head-on and you will surprise yourself as to how much you can actually do all by yourself.
You were chosen to be a twin momma for a reason. You can do so much more than you give yourself credit for.
Prepare the night before
At the end of the day, we are all super tired and all we want to do is go straight to bed…
However, because you will be attending two babies all day long. You want to make it as easy and simple as you can the following day.
So before you call it a night you need to prepare for the upcoming day. Think about what the next day might look like.
Do you have any appointments, deadlines, or just going to spend another day at home? Then you need to keep that in mind when preparing for the next day.
Think about everything you might need and plan accordingly. With twins because anything can happen.
At times is better to be overly prepared than to not be.
The night before you can:
- Prepare meals
- Do you need to run to the store to grab supplies?
- Get clothing layout for the next morning
- Think about where you are going to spend most of the day and prepare that area ( do you need diaper stations, diaper cady).
- Make sure you have washed enough bottles for the next day and they are ready to go
- Or if you’re pumping all of your pumping supplies are clean and your pump is ready to go
I know the to-do list might be never-ending. But try to get as much as you can before going to bed.
Because once the morning gets here and you get those babies up…It’s go time.
If you learn something right after delivering twins. Is how important prioritizing is going to be for your new life.
I know we all want to be superwoman and accomplish any and everything.
But unless you want to run yourself to the ground. You’re going to need to learn what needs your attention now and what can wait.
- Messy house because you need a nap
- Disposable dishes because you don’t have time to wash endless dishes
- Order a couple of meals because you don’t have time to cook
- Oder a couple of extra shirts because it’s much faster than tackling the laundry
- OR wearing the same thing from yesterday because your cloths is dirty and you don’t have time to do laundry right now
Whatever it is. The point is to focus on what’s important to YOU and your family. Everything else can take a back seat as you figure out your new life.
Don’t feel guilty because you can’t seem to accomplish all things.
Trust me I made it through the newborn stage but my life is still a hot mess most of the time.
But who cares… I have learned to embrace every single moment of it.
Let go of the things you can’t control and focus on the most important things aka keeping twins alive, fed, and well.
You have two babies you can’t hold babies all day long. At some point, you will need to prepare lunch or make bottles…
So what do you do with them? where do you put them?
You will need a combination of these items to help you get through the day.
PRO TIP: I would get two different items and see how your twins like them. This way you get to test out two different things and see what your babies prefer. Some babies can be picky.
This is where buying two of everything is not the best.
You might end up spending unnecessary money on certain items that your babies might hate.
Your number one priority is taking care of your newborn twins and everything else can wait.
In order for you not to feel overwhelmed with your never-ending to-do list focus on small goals.
The night before create a to-do list for the next day… Write down everything you want to attempt and get done.
Then from that list pick out 1-2 things and break them down even more.
For example, if you wrote to do the 50 loads of laundry, clean the whole kitchen, or clean all the bathrooms.
Then break it down even further:
- Instead of cleaning the whole kitchen then just focus on cleaning the stove
- Just clean the toilets instead of all the bathrooms
- Break up the laundry. At breakfast do one load, lunch time do another load, and so on.
When you focus on little projects:
A. You get less overwhelmed
B. Easier to accomplish on top of caring for the babies
C. Easier to scratch off your to do list
Schedule your to-do list in a rotation
For example, look at your week and decided what dates you will do what.
- Laundry is done Mondays and Fridays: You can break down the laundry even further. Towels are washed on Mondays and so on.
- Bathroom cleaning is Fridays
This is another way to break up your to-do list.
I found it much easier when you focus on small wins. Break down everything you need to do into small little pieces and focus on that.
Remember you already have a full-time job. That full-time position is to keep the twins fed, alive, and breathing.
Everything else will need to be dealt little by litte.
So to start only write down small goals that will give you small wins.
As you get in a rhythm and get more and more comfortable with taking care of the babies alone.
Then add more things to your to-do list.
Your head is going to be all over the place. To keep things simple then you need to stay organized.
What I mean by organize is to know exactly where everything you might need is and to be able to reach those items quickly.
- Do you have a station in your kitchen in which you keep all feeding items? formula, bottles, etc.
- Do you have a diaper caddy in the areas where you spend most of your time? What do you have inside of them? Diapers, wipes, diaper cream, hand sanitizer, etc.
Create a system
For example, whether you put outfits and roll them together Or put pajamas and socks in the same drawer. It doesn’t matter.
Just have it organize in a way that works for you.
- Tops and bottoms also go together
- In the kitchen, there is a small section for a bottle dryer and sippy cups
- The diaper bag stays close to the door and every time I go somewhere I try to replace everything I used right away.
- We have a diaper caddy in the living room because that’s where we spend the majority of our time. I don’t want to go back and forth into their room.
These are just some simple ideas to help you kick start the way you organize your twin’s items.
You don’t need to become a professional organizer or turn your house into Marie kondo. If you wish to do then go ahead.
Is more about putting items in places that makes sense to you and when you need to find a specfic item you know exactly where to look.
When you’re dealing with two babies you need things quick.
So find a simple way to organize all of the baby’s items according to your lifestyle and most importantly that you will remember where that item is stored at.
Join a twin mom group
Having twins and taking care of them can feel pretty lonely.
Sometimes we need other mommas out there to encourage us and let us know that everything will be ok.
Other twin mommas know exactly how you’re feeling and the struggles you’re going through. Lean on each other.
Being at home all day can make you go crazy. Or at least it did for me.
Reach out to other mommas who might be in your same situation or have lived through it all.
It can give you another perspective and assure you that if they made it so will you.
In the beginning, it might be hard to get out of the house. Some find online support. through Facebook groups, forums, reading blogs, etc.
And if you can get out of the house then that’s even better. Get some fresh air and connect with other twin mommas.
But definitely seek support. Taking care of twins is completely different from taking care of a singleton.
Getting tips, tricks, and advice from other twin mommas is priceless.
Same twin schedules
Schedules and more schedules. If you don’t get anything out of this post. Then get this.
You need to have some form of schedule for your twins. If you want to survive taking care of them all by yourself then they need the same schedule.
It doesn’t have to be strict it can be flexible. The point is to keep them on the same schedule.
Same eat-play-sleep repeat… Especially in the newborn stage when babies are mostly sleeping.
- Wake up the sleeping baby so that you can feed both at the same time. Yes that rule to never wake up the sleeping baby doesn’t apply to twins
- Put babies for naps at the same time
If you want to be able to accomplish some of your to-do lists, get some time for yourself, or even take a nap then you need to keep them on the same schedule.
Twins are different than singletons and you can’t just wing it. You need some form of plan.
A big part of surviving twins is to make sure you’re doing the same thing for both at the same time.
It’s challenging to tackle both babies at the same time. But with the proper gear and with practice you will become a pro in no time.
Outsource the extras
If your to-do list is driving you nuts and you can afford to pay someone then do it.
- Need help cleaning? Hire a maid to come and clean your house
- Need help cooking? you can hire someone to come cooks for you or get a meal subscription plan
- If you don’t want anyone cleaning your house or making your meals then maybe hire a babysitter for a few hours so that you can run errands or do other things around your house.
This doesn’t have to be an everyday thing because it can get expensive. Maybe once a month or every couple of months.
But if you have it on the budget then outsourcing can be a game-changer. It will free your time and allow you to focus on other things you might want to get done.
Take care of yourself
Taking care of twins all by yourself can completely drain you physically and mentally.
You can’t neglect yourself and your mental health.
- You take a nice hot bath while they are sleeping
- Wake up a little earlier so that you can enjoy the peace and quiet and your favorite coffee
- Or get everyone in the car and go to a drive-thru to get your favorite coffee or grab your favorite lunch.
Whatever it is that brings you joy do it. Is the little things that will get us through the day.
You will be surprised how much I look forward to my iced coffee every single morning.
Regardless of how crazy the day might be doing something that I enjoy really helps me survive the whole day with three kids.
Remember that your sanity takes priority. You can’t give all day without needing to refuel your tank.
Kids take a lot out of you. They suck the life out of you. You need to recharge yourself every single day.
Unless you want to end up being cranky and get snappy pretty quickly.
Last words for managing twin babies
If you only take one thing out of this… I want you to know that you’re one tough momma for doing this all by yourself.
Is not easy taking care of two babies who need you constantly and also have different needs.
Prioritize, get items, and buy things that will help you take care of them much easier.
At the end of the day as long as everyone was fed, changed, and alive then you survive.
And if you need help then reach out to me and any other twin momma. Because we have all lived through it and can support you through the journey.
I won’t promise that my advice will be all rainbows and butterflies. But I can give you REALITY.
My life is still a mess most of the time but as long as you learn to embrace it then it makes it easier to keep on moving.
I would love to hear from you in the comments about what has been the hardest thing about taking care of your twin babies.
Twin related articles:
- Survive newborn twins
- Twin mom blogs
- Pros and cons of twins
- Online breastfeeding twin resources
- Letter to the new mom of twins
- Things you can expect from the first month with twins
- Easy at-home self care ideas or twin moms