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How to take twins out alone and actually survive
Taking care of twins alone is hard enough then add going out by yourself with two babies…
That’s a whole another set of challenges!
So if you’re asking yourself “how can I go out with twins alone” then you’re in the right place!
Just know that the key components to leaving the house are to keep the outing simple, think and head, and prepare as much as you can.
It won’t be easy. But you survived a twin pregnancy and those far have been surviving taking care of newborn twins…
You can totally do this!
If you don’t put yourself out there you won’t know what works and what doesn’t…
For that reason, let’s get right into the tips that will help you get through surviving outings with twins alone!
One more thing, these tips will work whether this is your first time taking twins out by yourself, your fifth time, or is a planned ahead outing!
Things to consider before heading out of the house alone with twins
So you have gathered the courage to brave out with twins alone…
Well before you even leave the house here are some things you should think about beforehand:
- Where are you going?
- For how long?
- What would you be doing?
- If going out to run errands or shopping then consider having a list
Thinking about these questions beforehand will help you be better prepared.
You will know what things you must bring, what you can skip, what to wear, and most importantly you will be able to stay organized…
Which ultimately will help you stay sane!
When going out with twins alone staying organized is fundamental. Is only one of you.
Do keep in mind that life isn’t perfect and at times it doesn’t matter how much you prepare to be ready to just go with the flow.
You have twins so by this point you know that with two babies sometimes you gotta just roll with the punches.
How to actually take twins out all by yourself
Now that you have thought about the things you should consider beforehand.
Is time to think about the outing and what would it take to make it as smooth as possible.
So let’s get right into it!
1. Prepare ahead
This should be a given. With twins, we can’t just wing it all of the time.
You need some form of structure.
Whether you have a planned outing or you just desperately need to get out of the house…
The more you prepare ahead of time the better.
If you need to write down a to-do list then do it. This way you know exactly what you need to do
Things you can prepare ahead of time are:
- Have the diaper bag ready to go and by the door
- Get the clothing the twins will wear the night before and any other items they might need: blankets, toys, etc
- Get yourself ready first before getting the babies
Pretty much the night before has everything in place to make the next day as easier on you as possible.
2. Have a list
Going grocery shopping? Running errands?
Then create a to-do list or shopping list.
Mom brain is real and this will keep you on task.
You’ll know exactly what you’re going to do where and what you will need.
This is also fundamental with your first outing. Your babies might not be as patient because they are hungry, have dirty diapers, etc.
Having a list will keep the outing and you focus and therefore keep it short and on task.
3. Test items ahead of time
The day of the outing is not the time to figure out how your baby gear works.
Make sure you know how to open and fold your stroller.
If you’re bringing a baby carrier know exactly how to use it.
Pretty much any items you’re planning on taking. Make sure you know exactly how they work.
Nothing worse than arriving at your destination to find out that you’re unable to open the stroller and/or don’t know how to do it!
Screaming babies in car seats in a car aren’t fun!
So practice, practice, practice.
4. Go somewhere familiar
Consider going somewhere you have been to before.
Taking them to a place you know exactly how to get there, what the place offers, etc might just make the whole process much easier.
Whether that’s your favorite grocery store or park. It doesn’t matter.
The point is that is a place you know forwards and backward. Making the outing a little more manageable.
5. Close to home
Consider going somewhere close to home.
Maybe a park around the corner, or a coffee shop down the street!
This is a perfect way to test what you need, what you don’t need, how the babies do, etc.
Is also a great way to get out of the house without feeling too overwhelmed since you’re not going so far.
So if you forget something your house is just right around the corner.
Go somewhere close and work yourself up. Baby steps.
Is about getting out of the house. It doesn’t matter where you go!
6. Short and sweet
Babies could care less about where they are. The outings are truly for us!
But they are also not very patient and newborn twins need to eat pretty frequently.
So consider keeping the outing pretty short and sweet. The point is to get acclimated and change the scenery of your house.
As you figure out your groove, and the babies get older then you can venture out longer.
7. Baby friendly
I know places are getting better as far as being “kid-friendly”
But what I mean by this is making sure the place you’re going can accommodate the needs of babies such as:
Family bathrooms, plenty changing stations, maybe nursing friendly, etc.
Consider your needs and make sure the place you’re going to has those.
You will be surprised as to how many places still have no changing stations.
And how narrow doors are when trying to get through with a double stroller!
Timing is everything. To maximize your outing.
Leave the house right after a feeding!
This way when you get to the place you don’t have to deal with either cranky or hungry babies.
So if this is an outing that is planned ahead of time then try to schedule it right after your babies wake up and have eaten.
9. Diaper bag plus a baby car kit essentials
A diaper bag is a given when leaving the house!
The best thing you can do is to pack the bag ahead of time so you won’t forget your baby essentials…
Keep in mind where you’re going, for how long, etc to know exactly what you need to pack.
Above a diaper bag, a car kit with baby essentials will save you when you forget something!
Having a bag for the car takes the pressure off forgetting to pack an item in your diaper bag.
This bag is also good to have when you’re brave enough to venture out and who knows start going out on road trips with twins…
Here are some of the things you can keep in your car kit baby essentials bag:
- Diaper cream
- Extra clothes, blankets
- Toys, teething rings, pacifiers
- Hand sanitizer
- Diaper bags for dirty diapers
Do remember that if you use any of these items don’t forget to replace them!
Try to keep an inventory of what you keep in your car. This extra bag only works as long as you keep it in stock!
10. Lightweight double stroller
I don’t know about you but having a double stroller has been a lifesaver.
This is the easiest way to get around and keep everyone safe when going out with two babies alone.
Having a stroller that is lightweight, easy to fold/unfold, and push around is key.
Also, consider a horizontal vs a side by side stroller. Remember not all doors are created equal.
You might be going somewhere you have never been before and don’t know how wide their doors are!
You don’t want to experiment the day off, unload twins, and get them in the stroller only to find out your stroller doesn’t fit through the door.
Not fun at all!
11. Bring entertaiment
Whether a pacifier, a car seat toy, or a raddle.
Bring items to help keep your twins busy. If they have started gravitating towards a toy them make sure you scoop it up and bring it.
Not saying that the toys will avoid crying but they can prevent some meltdowns.
A mom can try, right?
12. Crying is unavodiable
Keep in mind you have twins. Which means two different personalities.
At times it doesn’t matter how prepared you are there is going to be crying so just go with it.
Don’t let that stop you from going out.
Just acknowledge that is a possibility. You can’t keep two different babies happy at all times.
Is part of being a mom to twins. And that’s ok
Remember a crying baby is a breathing baby!
13. Just do it
It’s wonderful to plan and pack all the things but at some point, you need to just go for it.
Just do it.
It might be scary, is probably going to be hard, challenging, and you might want to pull your hair out.
But it will be so worthed in the end.
One thing you need to know is that it doesn’t matter how much you plan.
Sometimes in order to know if something works or not is to just jump right in and do it.
We learn best from our mistakes.
I’m giving you all sorts of tips and tricks but only YOU will know what works and what doesn’t until you try it out.
You will find your groove!
So just do it. Jump right in. Venture out. Even if you’re afraid.
And if you’re thinking I’ll just wait until they get older because it’ll get easier.. it won’t.
Each stage comes with its own challenges. Some things will get easier other things will get harder.
YOU just get better at handling situations!
So if you get one thing out of this post is to just go for it.
14. Be proud because you survived
You did something that was freaking hard.
You venture out with your twins all alone without any help.
Give yourself some credit and cut yourself some slack.
You did it. Be proud. And know that each time you go out it gets easier and you get better.
Last words for how to get around with twins alone
Taking twins out alone is hard… But the faster you do it the better you’ll get at it.
It won’t be easy you’ll just learn how to handle it.
You have survived a twin pregnancy and taken care of two babies those far. You can handle an outing.
Just keep things simple- prepare as much as you can, keep it short, and lastly just go for it!
You will be so proud of yourself for doing it.
What is the worse thing that can happen? They’ll cry? You’ll forget something?
That has happened to all of us. And we are still here!
At times the best way to get over being anxious and/or afraid is to face it straight on!
So don’t let anxiety stop you… And if you need support feel free to reach out to me or any other twin mama out there…
We are here for you! You got this.
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I’m B the creator of Twins Made Easy. I’m an RN BSN MNN, wife, and mother to three kids (including boy/girl twins). Sharing and helping you survive twin life and more one coffee at a time. Read more
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